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The Love Architects Week 1: Relationship Vision and Goals - Envisioning a Future Together

Welcome to Week 1 of Love Architects, a transformative journey where you and your partner become the visionary architects of your extraordinary love story. In this chapter, we invite you to step into the role of architects, designing a strong and connective foundation for your relationship. Like master builders, you will explore the power of setting shared goals, envisioning a future together that is aligned with your values, dreams, and aspirations. Get ready to embark on this thrilling adventure as you lay the groundwork for a love that transcends time and creates a legacy of profound connection.

Ground & Connect - Eye Gazing

The purpose of eye gazing is to create a deep and intimate connection between individuals. As the saying goes, "the eyes are the windows to the soul," and through eye gazing, people can access a profound level of communication and understanding that goes beyond words. When two individuals engage in sustained eye contact, they are invited to be present with each other and experience a sense of vulnerability and openness.

In romantic relationships, eye gazing can be a powerful tool for rekindling passion and intimacy. It can also be used as a means of resolving conflicts and deepening emotional connection. In a broader context, eye gazing is practiced in various spiritual and mindfulness traditions as a form of meditation, facilitating self-awareness and promoting a sense of oneness with others and the universe, lets give it a go !

Try it:

  1. Find a Quiet Space: Choose a quiet and comfortable space where you and your partner can sit facing each other without distractions.

  2. Set the Mood: Dim the lights, light a few candles, or create a cozy ambiance that promotes a sense of intimacy and relaxation.

  3. Get Comfortable: Sit comfortably facing each other, with your knees touching, if possible. You can sit on the floor or on cushions for added comfort.

  4. Take a Few Deep Breaths: Begin the exercise by taking a few deep breaths together. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, and exhale fully through your mouth.

  5. Maintain Eye Contact: Gently gaze into each other's eyes without looking away. The goal is to maintain soft, relaxed eye contact throughout the exercise. Maintain eye contact from anywhere between 3-10 minutes. As you practice this, longer times will feel more natural and accessible.

  6. Observe and Connect: As you gaze into each other's eyes, notice the emotions, sensations, and thoughts that arise. Be present with your feelings and allow yourselves to connect deeply.

  7. Share Your Experience: After the exercise, take a few moments to share your experiences with each other. You can discuss any insights, emotions, or feelings that came up during the eye gazing.

  8. Express Gratitude: End the exercise by expressing gratitude to each other for participating and sharing this intimate experience.


1. Reflecting on Our Individual Aspirations:

  • Take time to reflect individually on your personal aspirations, dreams, and goals for various aspects of life, such as career, family, personal growth, and experiences.

  • Consider what brings you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose in life.

2. Sharing Our Visions:

  • Come together and share your individual visions for the future with each other.

  • Discuss the aspects that align and complement each other's visions, as well as any differences or unique perspectives.

3. Identifying Shared Goals:

  • Explore the common goals and aspirations you have as a couple.

  • Discuss and prioritize the goals that resonate deeply with both of you and reflect the essence of your relationship.

4. Aligning Values:

  • Consider the values that are important to each of you individually and identify the shared values that underpin your relationship.

  • Discuss how these values can guide your decision-making, communication, and overall growth as a couple.

5. Setting SMART Goals:

  • Develop specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals that align with your shared vision and values.

  • Break down your goals into smaller, actionable steps that you can work on together.

6. Creating a Vision Statement:

  • Craft a vision statement that encapsulates your shared vision for the future of your relationship.

  • Keep it concise and meaningful, reflecting the aspirations and values that you hold dear.

Some common challenges and setbacks that couples may encounter include:

Misaligned visions: Couples may find that their individual visions for the future are not fully aligned. They may have different aspirations, goals, or priorities, which can create a sense of disconnect and uncertainty about the direction of the relationship.

Solution: It's important to approach this challenge with open-mindedness and willingness to understand each other's perspectives. Engage in honest and open discussions, actively listen to each other's aspirations, and look for areas of overlap and shared values. Through effective communication and compromise, you can work towards creating a shared vision that encompasses both partners' dreams and aspirations.

Fear of vulnerability: Sharing personal dreams and aspirations requires vulnerability, and some individuals may feel hesitant or fearful about opening up. They may be guarded due to past experiences or fear of rejection, which can hinder the process of creating a shared vision.

Solution: Foster a safe and supportive environment where both partners feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and desires. Encourage vulnerability by leading by example and showing understanding and acceptance. Practice active listening, empathy, and reassurance to create a space where both partners feel safe to share their deepest aspirations.

Lack of clarity: Some couples may struggle to articulate their individual visions or may have difficulty envisioning their future together. They may feel overwhelmed or unsure about what they truly want, which can hinder the goal-setting process.

Solution: Take the time for self-reflection and introspection. Encourage each other to explore personal aspirations, passions, and goals through journaling, guided exercises, or engaging in activities that promote self-discovery. Seek inspiration from books, articles, or mentors to gain clarity and insights about what you truly desire for your future.

Difficulty prioritizing goals: Couples may find it challenging to prioritize goals and determine which ones are most important for the relationship. Conflicting priorities or differing levels of commitment to certain goals can lead to disagreements or a lack of direction.

Solution: Engage in open and honest discussions to understand each other's perspectives and priorities. Look for common ground and shared values that can guide the prioritization process. Consider the potential impact of each goal on the relationship and discuss the steps needed to achieve them. Through compromise and active collaboration, you can find a balance that honors both partners' aspirations and nurtures the relationship.

Remember, challenges and setbacks are a natural part of the process. By approaching them with patience, empathy, and open communication, you can overcome these obstacles and move forward in creating a shared vision that strengthens your bond and brings you closer together.

Exercise: "Letters to Our Future Selves"


  1. Set aside uninterrupted time where you and your partner can individually reflect on your visions for the future.

  2. Each of you will write a letter to your future self, describing your hopes, dreams, and aspirations for your relationship. Imagine that you are writing to yourself in five years, envisioning the ideal state of your partnership.

  3. Begin your letter by expressing gratitude for the growth and experiences you have had together thus far. Then, dive into the details of your envisioned future. Consider various aspects of your relationship, such as communication, intimacy, shared activities, and personal growth.

  4. Be specific and detailed in describing your desired future. Include goals you wish to achieve together, experiences you hope to share, and qualities you want to cultivate as individuals and as a couple.

  5. Once you have finished writing, exchange the letters with your partner. Take turns reading each other's letters aloud, allowing space for deep listening and reflection.

  6. After both letters have been read, engage in a heartfelt conversation about the shared visions and aspirations you discovered. Discuss the common themes, desires, and goals that emerged from both letters.

  7. Finally, brainstorm and set actionable steps that you can take together to align your actions with your envisioned future. Identify specific ways you can support each other's growth and work towards the shared goals you have outlined.

This exercise allows you to connect on a deeper level by sharing your dreams and desires for the future. It creates a sense of unity and purpose as you align your individual visions into a shared vision. By writing these letters and engaging in meaningful dialogue, you lay the groundwork for a future filled with intention, purpose, and mutual growth.

Connective Questions

  1. What are some of your individual aspirations and goals for the future, and how do you envision our relationship fitting into those aspirations?

  2. What are the values that you hold dear and want to prioritize in our relationship as we work towards our shared vision?

  3. How can we align our individual visions and find common ground to create a shared vision that reflects the essence of our partnership?

  4. What are some specific goals that resonate deeply with both of us and contribute to our shared vision? How can we break them down into actionable steps?

  5. How can we ensure that our shared goals and vision remain at the forefront of our minds and guide our decision-making and actions as a couple?

Engaging in the Love Architects program matters deeply as it provides a transformative journey for couples, allowing them to become the visionary architects of their extraordinary love story. By participating in exercises like eye gazing, partners can cultivate a profound sense of intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional connection, rekindling passion and reinforcing the foundation of their relationship. Sharing individual aspirations and visions for the future enables partners to gain a deeper understanding of each other's dreams and desires, fostering effective communication and mutual support. Through aligning shared goals and values, couples create a unified sense of purpose and direction, making decisions together that strengthen their bond. Setting SMART goals and crafting a vision statement provide a roadmap for the relationship's growth and development, promoting constant evolution and shared achievement. The process of writing letters to their future selves empowers partners to envision an ideal future together, encouraging them to work collaboratively towards a shared vision. By undertaking this journey, couples lay the groundwork for a love that transcends time, deepens connection, and fosters a legacy of profound love and understanding that will support and nurture their relationship in the years to come. Take this week to move through this pillar, next Sunday we will be diving into Week 2 : Effective Communication ! Have a beautiful and delicious week !


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